The most complicated thing on planet earth is to handle human emotions and relationships.Each one of us is so unique that at times we totally fail in the department of handling a person.We go through so much of emotions,dramas,tantrums,opinions,cynicism the list doesn't stop. How easy life would be if we were all the same,Hey but then whats the fun ???...When things really get out of our hand we decide to call it quits there comes the toughest part - Heart breaks. People handle hearts breaks very differently ,Whether you have dumped or you got dumped feelings are pretty much the same... former case you feel guilty and in later case u feel betrayed but the loss is loss.If you are the one who is just out of break up / nursing you heart weeks after break up or better case in the " move on " phase there are few do & don't dos .I am no expert in love advice I suck when it comes to love advice or handling breakups I so literally become a zombie ,I call up almost all of my gal pals ....brood for hours n hours cry make hue and finally rest the case in peace.
Stop the social media stalking :
Call it a curse of this social media era You need to give some time for ur mind to come out of all those memories,moments,promises n commitments. By stalking them on social media you are not letting things go, rather you feed your mind constantly with those memories which in turn makes u completely impossible to forget that person.This isn't going to do any good for you nor for that person.remove your accounts from all social medias take some break find peace with yourself.Once you feel better you can happily join the bandwagon of social media.( whether to be your Exs frnds in FB or follow him/her in insta is purely on the grounds you broke up with him/her).
Write down how you feel :
This might sound very childish but trust me it works in great way.Write down all your feelings when you are nursing ur heart .Remember its not about that person but about your feelings,there is hell a lot of difference .What is the current state of ur mind ,what haunts you, how you actually feel,how you start and end the day.you don't have to be Shakespeare you don't even have to make them sound nice just pour your honest thoughts.This will make you feel better. you can trash them once you have completely moved on.
Don't play the cat and mouse game:
Yes again curse of social media sending hidden messages via status or display pic .... sad quotes or sharing love failure songs Boy! better please grow up.Never give someone the pleasure of seeing you suffer.Remember no matter how you feel always get up dress up & show up . Don't let the whole wide world know that you are suffering and that doesn't mean you have to start the game of who's living a better life esp on social media .Think how people would have done this before social media or internet boom that's the best way don't cheat yourself in the process.
Handle memories:
This is the most difficult part you breakup only with the person not with the memories.Memory cells never die they constantly remind you the good times It literally haunts you make you feel lonely ,depressed and creates a vacuum in your life..we have to learn how to survive with these memories they aren't gonna go anywhere .You have all rights to break up with ur partner vice versa..remember, whatever may be the reason..... it may be you or ur partner who wanted to call it quits you always have to respect the decision.when you have considerable amount of respect towards ur partner and the decision you will automatically make peace with yourself in due course and when you make peace with yourself you will automatically learn how to handle the memories and coexist with it which will make your life easy.
I always love this is dialogue from the movie Holiday that pretty much sums up on break up in a great way " I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade".-IRIS.
Skipping the phase is inevitable but all that we have to remember is life is much more than a breakup and somewhere down the line you will be grateful even for the breakups and the lost love.
P.S happy valentines day :)
Stop the social media stalking :
Call it a curse of this social media era You need to give some time for ur mind to come out of all those memories,moments,promises n commitments. By stalking them on social media you are not letting things go, rather you feed your mind constantly with those memories which in turn makes u completely impossible to forget that person.This isn't going to do any good for you nor for that person.remove your accounts from all social medias take some break find peace with yourself.Once you feel better you can happily join the bandwagon of social media.( whether to be your Exs frnds in FB or follow him/her in insta is purely on the grounds you broke up with him/her).
Write down how you feel :
This might sound very childish but trust me it works in great way.Write down all your feelings when you are nursing ur heart .Remember its not about that person but about your feelings,there is hell a lot of difference .What is the current state of ur mind ,what haunts you, how you actually feel,how you start and end the day.you don't have to be Shakespeare you don't even have to make them sound nice just pour your honest thoughts.This will make you feel better. you can trash them once you have completely moved on.
Don't play the cat and mouse game:
Yes again curse of social media sending hidden messages via status or display pic .... sad quotes or sharing love failure songs Boy! better please grow up.Never give someone the pleasure of seeing you suffer.Remember no matter how you feel always get up dress up & show up . Don't let the whole wide world know that you are suffering and that doesn't mean you have to start the game of who's living a better life esp on social media .Think how people would have done this before social media or internet boom that's the best way don't cheat yourself in the process.
Handle memories:
This is the most difficult part you breakup only with the person not with the memories.Memory cells never die they constantly remind you the good times It literally haunts you make you feel lonely ,depressed and creates a vacuum in your life..we have to learn how to survive with these memories they aren't gonna go anywhere .You have all rights to break up with ur partner vice versa..remember, whatever may be the reason..... it may be you or ur partner who wanted to call it quits you always have to respect the decision.when you have considerable amount of respect towards ur partner and the decision you will automatically make peace with yourself in due course and when you make peace with yourself you will automatically learn how to handle the memories and coexist with it which will make your life easy.
I always love this is dialogue from the movie Holiday that pretty much sums up on break up in a great way " I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade".-IRIS.
Skipping the phase is inevitable but all that we have to remember is life is much more than a breakup and somewhere down the line you will be grateful even for the breakups and the lost love.
P.S happy valentines day :)
